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Mental health first aid made me a better friend

A few years ago, I was walking with a friend – someone who I had just met a few months earlier – and she began telling me how she was going through a rough patch. She was self-harming, misusing pills and skipping work. I remember a lot about that conversation: It was a warm summer night and we were walking along the Mississippi River in Minneapolis. I remember I hated my job and contemplated skipping work somedays, too.

Mostly, I remember I froze; I had no clue what to say or how to react.

In spite of being an incredibly empathetic person and experiencing my own struggles, I didn’t want to say the wrong thing. I didn’t want to panic, but I also didn’t want to just brush it off as if it wasn’t a big deal. I didn’t want to invalidate her feelings, but I didn’t want to try to “fix” her.

She is not, nor has she ever been, broken – just like anyone else struggling with mental health issues.

Fast forward to now.

This past week, that same friend told me that she has some extreme hormone imbalances and they are contributing to a handful of physical health issues for her. I immediately asked her questions about symptoms and what she’s doing to help alleviate these symptoms. I looked up “hormone imbalances” online to educate myself and asked how I can help.

Do you see the difference?

With the physical health issues, I knew what to do. I knew to ask questions and find out how to help. There was no shame in talking about these things. With her mental health struggles, I didn’t know how to approach the topic in the least bit.

As a society, we are prepared for physical health issues: We talk about them without fear of judgement. We ask our doctors honest questions. We proudly wear ribbons and walk for illnesses like breast cancer and MS. We get trained in CPR and first aid.

What about mental health?

Although awareness of mental health problems is continuing to gain momentum, there’s still more to be done. Enter: Mental Health First Aid, training that gives you the skills you need to reach out and provide initial help and support to someone who may be developing a mental health or substance use problem or experiencing a crisis.

Mental Health First Aid is an eight-hour course that teaches you how to identify, understand and respond to signs of mental illnesses and substance use disorders. The class (which I have taken) arms you with the skills to help a stranger in the supermarket who’s having a panic attack, ask someone if they’re considering suicide and talk to a friend or family member who’s struggling with mental health issues. Approximately one in five adults in the U.S. –; 43.8 million or 18.5 percent –; experiences mental illness in a given year.

I have a handful of friends who struggle with mental health issues, such as anxiety, addiction, depression, PTSD, schizophrenia and more. This class has given me the courage to ask them questions and have candid, honest conversations, learn about their conditions and most of all, ask them how I can help. From doing this, I’ve learned – more than anything – that my friends want to have this dialogue. It’s like a breath of fresh air to them.

I’m now more in tune with their actions and behavior patterns and I know what they need from me:

I know to check in often with my friend who’s pregnant and just went back on anxiety meds because she had a panic attack.

I know to be a grounding sense of reality for my friend when we’re getting coffee in our hometown, because that’s where he had a massive psychotic breakdown.

I know to reach out to another friend incessantly when she doesn’t respond to my call for a few days because she’s crawled back into her turtle shell of depression.

I know that when I don’t hear from one friend or see any posts on social media, I need to do some digging to be sure he didn’t relapse again.

Becoming trained in Mental Health First Aid has helped me have the hard conversations and be a better friend. I’ve used it in many situations and it’s benefitted me more than I could ever have imagined.

Jefferson Center offers these courses free to our community. For more information or to register for a Mental Health First Aid class, visit www.jcmh.org/mental-health-first-aid/


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