Getting along with others in school

One secret to success in school is getting along with others. Children who have experience with rules, being respectful, courteous, generous and affable will have an easier time and be happier in school, according to school psychologists.

Adults can help children form these virtues by setting an example at home and helping children practice some basics.

Words and actions matter

Act polite and you’ll be polite. Using words like “please, thank you, no thanks and excuse me” with a kind voice set a tone of niceness and respect. Adults can help children use words to ask for help or express feelings. Teach the difference between telling an adult if something is not right, bullying or unsafe and being a constant “tattle-tale.” Practicing these suggestions around the home makes a difference but takes patience, say psychologists.

Use kind language. Give sincere compliments and express concern. Talk about how kindness makes others feel good and then they are more likely to be kind to you. Adults may need to remind that some words kids hear are off limits and inappropriate in your family and at school.

Help children practice listening silently when someone else is talking and looking at the person’s face. Adults can kneel or sit down to children’s height when talking with them to show how this is done. Role play with stuffed animals or practice at mealtime and praise good listening.

Greet and say “good-bye” to people. Smile. Act enthusiastic and you’ll be enthusiastic is a Dale Carnegie tip for a successful life.

Share and tidy up

You can start the sharing habit by asking your baby to share Cheerios. Little ones love this game. Cut treats in half to share or share space on the couch. Ask others if they want a treat or a piece of paper while getting supplies. Let another person go first if there is a tie for first in line. The water fountain will still be there.

Participate in helping to pick up toys, clothes and clearing the table. Make it a game by singing a pick-up song, playing favorite music, or having a contest as a part of an established routine. Point out when materials are picked up they are easier to find next time. This is known as a “kid reason.”

Play games where taking turns is expected, like cards and Candyland. Practice “now your turn” at meal time, while sharing crayons or choosing a show.

Hang up clothing or backpacks. Make this easy by setting a good example and providing kid-friendly pegs and containers.

Demonstrate and practice inside, outside and whispering voices. There will be classmates who have not yet learned these virtues, but your kids can show them how it’s done.

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